I know everyone doesn't believe in God/Jesus, but I do, and I hold myself accountable, and I always keep it real. Being the fiery Aries that I am I keep harsh words to myself unless they are absolutely justified and warranted to be said. The tongue should always be guarded because it being what it is can say the sweetest things at times, or cut through people like a sword. So, I try to keep mine in check most of the time😉.
GETTING BACK TO WHAT I SEEK IN "THE ONE" WHO WILL BE MY PARTNER FOR LIFE: (1/2025)
I see my life is an adventure, and the right guy will gladly be on board for these adventures with me, because he will be the right guy :)
I am not strictly against dating an American East Asian guy or an East Asian guy from a European country as long as he loves his culture and language and wants to see it passed down to future generations (as in our future child(ren) together), and has not been assimilated so much that he forgot where he comes from through his East Asian family lines. As a Native American, I've witnessed firsthand how our cultures and languages have become fragmented and lost over time; including my own culture and language which is very fragmented and essentially lost in a way it cannot be fully regained. Therefore, I deeply respect East Asian individuals who cherish and uphold their language and culture. In American society, there's often pressure to assimilate and discard one's cultural identity to fit in. However, I believe in standing out rather than conforming. Maintaining and celebrating one's cultural heritage is a powerful way to preserve identity and diversity...why fit in, when you can stand out.
A Long Distance Relationship: (LDR) is very workable for me with the right person, as long as we are both single, legitimately verified; knowing that we are factually who we say we are, and make time to see each other in person a few times a year, or more depending on circumstances, and can take time out to video chat and text with each other while also maintaining a committed loyal relationship long distance, and eventually settling down in one place together (hopefully in Minnesota in the U.S. since there is no place safer, and more pristine than MN in the U.S.). Plus LDR allows for conection and trust at a deeper level, emotionally and mentally, giving the relationship time to develop in a meaningful way. This creates a bond that can become unbreakable as love grows over time in an honorable and real way. This is how a relationship should work, not the other way around. Love should come first, and then everything else will easily flow into place.
Miles between people has nothing to do with love but it can prove just how much love is really there between a couple. Those that had an LDR that didn't work out didn't have a love strong enough to maintain it so they gave up. In life sometimes people just have to do business or work in other lands and it can't be helped but I am mature minded enough to deal with a situation like that because all that matters is mutual love, respect, honesty, and loyalty.
Love Has No Borders: Love has no boundaries, love is a borderless, beautiful, transcendental emotion that surpasses geographical locations. I can love someone I am committed to no matter where they are in the world, they would know that they can depend on me to be there for them and be loyal to them no matter where they are whenever they have to travel to other parts of the world. Think about all the military or business men who have to travel and stay in places for months who have wives loyally married to them. It takes a certain kind of woman to be strong enough to be that wife, and a certain kind of man to honor that wife. Empires where built by men who had wives just like this. I will also say women who built Empires had husbands just like this also👑.
You should be able to trust each other no matter where you are until you can both settle down in the same place. (I am hoping here in the states, in Minnesota. It is beautiful here, can't see myself living anywhere else in the states). Trust is my number one rule. Nothing else can be built on without it. Imagine seeing someone nearly everyday, if not everyday, but you don't really trust them, you have doubts about what they are doing and their sincerity as well, you are stressed when they are not right around you, and you hold on to them because you are totally co-dependent on their presence in your life. That is not a relationship...that is fear, and it is so sad for anyone to be that way. No one should feel sad, doom, gloom, tired, lonely, hopeless, unloved, unappreciated, suffocated, confused, burdened, mistrusted, ignored, mistreated, manipulated, or depressed in a relationship. These are all clear signs of major relationship trouble, these are relationship red flags.
I am extra cautious about who I will allow in my life, I will not allow any of these negatives in my life, I am a person who loves kindness, truthfulness, sincerity, peace, and balance in a relationship and will not accept anything less because without these good traits its not a relationship worth having. No one is perfect but these traits do make a relationship worth having. Some may say I have high standards...well, I know what I have to offer so my standards won't be anything less :)
The convenience of having the person around you all the time is nothing real, it's a miserable, unhealthy, shell of a relationship. No trust or respect for personal space to me equals no real love. People have lives before they meet and should still be able to spend some time with family and friends without feeling like they are in the wrong for doing so. A shell of a relationship is soul crushing and I feel for people too afraid to move on from stuff like that, it will end badly and cause mental and emotional trauma. I won't allow anyone to entangle me in something so negative, harmful, and toxic. So what it comes down to for me personally is that I want and need a balanced and harmonious relationship without any drama. Just because I love K- Drama's that doesn't mean I want real drama in my life, and the man that I will have a committed and life long relationship with will want these same mentally and emotionally healthy things for the both of us❤️.
"DRIVE" IS AN EXAMPLE OF HOW A HEALTHY, HAPPY, LOVING, RELATIONSHIP SHOULD WORK.
I think that people today are kind of fearful of opening up themselves fully to another whom they are in a relationship with because they don’t want to be ridiculed, when two people love each other fear should not exist. Love is not fear, love is kindness, trust, and honor. I believe that these things are what sustain a relationship.
I embedded Yin and Yang into the lyric representing male and female by using the phrase below, and it worked perfectly :)
MascuYANG FeminYIN
"Drive" song lyric snip © 2023
"I'm not asking you to be weak, I may not always be strong
but let my mascu-YANG meet your femin-YIN, this is where we belong"
ABOUT THE PRODUCTION OF MY SONG "DRIVE"
"DRIVE" was produced and sung by the same producer. He is a British Chinese producer out of the UK, C.S.
C.S. really listened to me and did the song exactly how I wanted it. He paid attention to every single note and melody I gave him to work with, every idea I threw at him for concept, and he understood my song "Drive" completely even with me using just my vocal melody (as in the original way I sung the song lyrics and its melody) to create the musical melody and vocal arrangement for the song. C.S. was so helpful and did a beautiful job with my song. I also chose him because I did not feel it was right to use any other vocalist on "DRIVE" but an Asian male singer and producer because the song is so culturally East Asian that I did not want to offend anyone by using anyone else. Culture is important, and sadly many of us Natives have lost our languages as well as culture due to colonization throughout the Americas. As a Native American I'm very sensitive to cultural appropriations.
Producer C.S. was a Godsend, and I mean this literally. I prayed that the song would turn out great, and it did. C.S. had the right voice and vibe that I needed for the song, and I was correct in choosing him to sing and produce it. I also fully own the master to my song "Drive" and all copyright and publishing rights as well.
VISION AND GOALS WORTH MANIFESTING:
I personally want to bridge the gap between myself as a Native American and other people of Asian descent. In my heart Asia is my first motherland because technically Native Americans are Asian Diaspora from Asia, and factually my Indigenous people left Asia 10's of thousands of years ago to come to the Americas. Many of us of Native American Indian descent know that we come from Asia, and we know that our story begins in Asia.
I truly believe that everything is coming full circle.
My goal is to do my part in promoting highly underserved Asia Diaspora worldwide including Native Americans like me, giving us a chance and a voice in the music industry. A place where we won't be exploited, and where we can create without suppression, and not have others limiting our true talents. I plan to learn music production and music video directing skills along the way as well. This is my vision worth manifesting.
My long term music career goal is to do my part in strengthening our place as a network of Asia Diaspora talent. We, as a network, will support each other, and stand strong in the music industry. Click on "THE BRAND" link within the menu located at top of this page.
Our change is coming. #Inevitable
Asia Diaspora therefore becomes a permanent strong voice in the worldwide music industry without limitations, or middlemen. The west and its music industry has suppressed great music from people of our ethnic backgrounds for so long, and that is on its way to coming to an end. We have strong determination and tenacity embedded in our DNA.
My favorite saying, that is Chinese in origin:
"Be not afraid of growing slowly, be afraid of standing still.”
I want to spread my love of music and my love of Asia back to Asia and give people on the continent of Asia good, honest, authentic music coming from this side of the world. I want to bring back music that makes people's heart, soul, and mind feel good again. Positive music that gives hope.
I truly love Asian people everywhere, and I state this with my deepest sincerity 😊.
I hope that you as my audience will support my music efforts now, and in the future!
Sincerely yours,
Sonya B., a.k.a. Songwriter Eclectic™